The Best Way to Pick Up a Girl


You see her across the room. Ah, so attractive. But nobody to introduce her to you. 'Ah, I'll do a James Bond on her,' you think. Now what was Bond's first words to Pussy Galore? 'I must be dreaming.' No, that won't work. How about singing 'Underneath the Mango Tree' to her as Bond did to Honey Rider in 'Dr. No'. Ah? No! Well, what's left? You'll just have to go up and talk to her, if it's a situation where you won't see her again. But it's always safe to assume that she has a boyfriend that can squeeze the stuffings out of a gold ball. That aside, take a chance and make polite conversation. What's the worst that can happen. She says, 'I'm sorry, I'm not available.' and you save the time and money of a date with her. Like George Burns says, 'When a beautiful woman says 'no' to me, it's a relief.

If you know that you will see her again, like at your university, your job, or working at a restaurant, you can have another shot at her and use the shy man's approach to getting a date.

'You farm boys don't make a pitch, you just shy your way into position,' Ann Margaret says to Pat Boone in 'State Fair'.

Okay, here it is. Instead of asking her to dinner or out on a date which has romance intended, get some tickets to a concert or event first, and then with tickets in hand say, 'I just happened to have tickets to this event. If you'd like to go with me, I'd be happy to take you.' This way the subject is the event. Talk about the person singing at the concert, instead of if the two of you could hit it off or not. She can easily say yes or no, or ask more questions about you or the time and place of the event. She doesn't have the pressure of turning you down, so she can just turn the event down and that will be that. And if by chance she can't make that date, but is interested in you, she can start talking about going out another time.

I've strongly suggested this 'ticket' technique to both men and women who are infatuated with someone at work, or at shop, or restaurant, and have no idea how to make an approach. If the person is available, they usually say yes to an invitation. After all, it's just going to an event. It's not really a date.

I used this 'ticket' technique in college to ask out a beautiful stranger. I was very shy, but was 'in love' from a distance so I had to take some kind of scary attraction. Her name was Cindy and I often saw her in the student lounge surrounded by guys. It took weeks of watching her before I could catch her walking alone, and ask her if she'd like to go see the reserved seat Cinerama showing of 'Grand Prix'. She said, 'Well, I don't know you, but if you come and talk to me sometimes and I get to know you, then maybe.'

So in the next days I made an attempts at getting in a few words with her as she talked with her friends. Then I found out she was taking the film appreciation class that I had taken a semester earlier. So I pushed the teacher to show my new 16mm action film in the class that she was in. He fiqured I had a secret motive because he said he'd show it in the morning class, but I said it had to be shown in the afternoon class (the one Cindy was in). Finally, he agreed.

I not only directed the film, but had a part in it where I used my newly learned karate and hoped she would be impressed. The film went over great with the class cheering and applauding. As she was leaving the class I said to her, 'Well, do you know me well enough now?' She said, 'To go out with you? I replied, 'Yes.' She smilled and nodded her head yes. So don't 'ask her out'. Don't 'take her to dinner'. Get some tickets, and maybe she'll answer you like Cameron Diaz does in 'Charlie's Angels'. 'Tickets? I love tickets!'

About The Author

Paul Kyriazi - Live the James Bond Lifestyle

http://www.BondLife.com







Related News




Life coaching: The 7.3 radical spins on dating - Jerusalem Post

Life coaching: The 7.3 radical spins on dating
Jerusalem Post, Israel -12 hours ago
By BEN GOLDFARB If your dating hasn't led you to your life partner yet, then you might want to try a different approach. The following guidelines will help ...

Love-life need toning up? Call a dating coach - AFP

AFP

Love-life need toning up? Call a dating coach
AFP -May 21, 2008
Enter the dating coach. Unlike a traditional matchmaker, a dating coach will not arrange a tryst for you, but is "a personal trainer for people who want to ...

"Speed-Dating" Put To The Test - CBS News

CBS News

"Speed-Dating" Put To The Test
CBS News, NY -6 hours ago
Singles during "speed-dating" event on Early Show plaza Thursday. The digital clock in the background is timing each "date." (CBS/EARLY SHOW) See any ...
"Dating School" Teaches Singles How To Go About ItCBS News
all 2 news articles

Keanu Reeves dating Winona Ryder? - Digital Spy

The Sun

Keanu Reeves dating Winona Ryder?
Digital Spy, UK -4 hours ago
Reeves was previously rumoured to be dating actress Parker Posey. The Matrix actor hasn't been in a long-term relationship since girlfriend Jennifer Syme ...
Rumours rife that Winona Ryder and Keanu Reeves are datingMirror.co.uk
Winanu the new star couple?The Sun
all 3 news articles

Jen's Dating Do's & Dont's - OK! Magazine

Jen's Dating Do's & Dont's
OK! Magazine, NY -6 hours ago
For the complete list of Jen's simple rules for dating a rock star, pick up the new issue of OK! — on sale everywhere now.
Owen Wilson And Jennifer Aniston Find Imaginary HappinessActress Archives
all 2 news articles

Dating again after 50: Not settling for less - SunHerald.com

Dating again after 50: Not settling for less
SunHerald.com, MS -3 hours ago
Once I began dating again I found out I knew little to nothing about this sector of society's structure. At 47 it was no longer the same world, obviously, ...

How to survive dating: Sex and uncomfortable situations - SunHerald.com

How to survive dating: Sex and uncomfortable situations
SunHerald.com, MS -3 hours ago
Dating? Here's some advice on sex from the book "How to Survive Dating" (Hundreds of Heads Books, www.hundredsofheads.com, $12.95), straight from people ...

The Nightcap: Speed dating for startups - Seattle Post Intelligencer

Seattle Post Intelligencer

The Nightcap: Speed dating for startups
Seattle Post Intelligencer -12 hours ago
My head is spinning after spending the past three hours at the Fusion Ultra Lounge in the U District where Dylan Rosario hosted the latest sFive startup ...

Are Jude Law and Kimberly Stewart an item?; Jessica Alba marries ... - San Francisco Chronicle

ITN

Are Jude Law and Kimberly Stewart an item?; Jessica Alba marries ...
San Francisco Chronicle,  USA -21 hours ago
AP Photo/Evan Agostini Jude Law has sparked rumors he is dating veteran rocker Rod Stewart's daughter Kimberly, after pictures of the pair enjoying a steamy ...
Jude Law And Kimberly Stewart Drown Sorrows In Each Other's PantsDefamer Australia
Jude the obscureBexley Times
Law dating Rod Stewart's daughter KimberlyMalaysia Sun
AHN
all 101 news articles

Privacy and 'online' dating are not mutually exclusive - Canadian National Newspaper

Privacy and 'online' dating are not mutually exclusive
Canadian National Newspaper, Canada -3 hours ago
Today, about 40% of single adults use online dating. The problem with most dating sites is they offer no privacy. Because profiles/photos must be searchable ...